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Stand for the Silent was started in 2010 by a group of high school students in Oklahoma City, OK, after they heard the story of Kirk and Laura Smalley’s son, Ty Field- Smalley. At eleven years-old, Ty took his own life after being suspended from school for retaliating against a bully that had been bullying him for over two years. Stand for the Silent exists as a platform to allow Kirk and Laura to share their story, and offer education and tools that will prevent their tragedy from happening to another child and family. Kirk and Laura’s mission is to continue to change kids’ lives and bring awareness to bullying and the real devastation it causes.
Since May 2010, Kirk and Laura Smalley have traveled to over 1,000 schools and spoken with over 1,000,000 kids! In March 2010, Kirk and Laura met privately with President Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama in The White House prior to attending the first ever White House conference on bullying.
The Stand For The Silent (SFTS) program addresses the issue of school bullying with an engaging, factual, and emotional methodology. With the help of student leaders, Kirk Smalley presents his inspirational story, and students are shown first-hand the life and death consequences of bullying. Through this unique approach, lives are changed for the better. Students, some for the first time, develop an empathetic awareness through education and understanding.
New Orleans Pride is proud to have a chapter of Stand For The Silent. We will no longer allow individuals to suffer at the hands of a bully. STFS New Orleans will host events revolving around bully prevention. At the end of each event, pledge cards will be given to those who agree to stand for the silent. The pledge speaks of respect and love…hope and aspiration. Above all, it illustrates the main lesson taught through the Stand For The Silent program: I AM SOMEBODY.
Visit the National SFTS Site Here
In the next 7 minutes, a child in the U.S. will be bullied. It may be the son or daughter of someone you know or, worse, it may be your own. Meanwhile, only four in 100 adults will intervene. And only 11 percent of the child’s peers might do the same. The rest — 85 percent — will do nothing.
28% of U.S. students in grades 6–12 experienced bullying.
20% of U.S. students in grades 9–12 experienced bullying.
Approximately 30% of young people admit to bullying others in
70.6% of young people say they have seen bullying in their schools.
70.4% of school staff have seen bullying. 62% witnessed bullying
two or more times in the last month and 41% witness bullying once
a week or more.
When bystanders intervene, bullying stops within 10 seconds 57%
of the time.
6% of students in grades 6–12 experienced cyberbullying.
16% of high school students (grades 9–12) were electronically bullied in the past year.
However, 55.2% of LGBT students experienced cyberbullying.
A nationwide survey of youth in grades 9–12 in public and private schools in the United States (U.S.) found that (Center for Disease Control and Prevention [CDC], 2014):
16% of students reported seriously considering suicide
13% reported creating a plan
8% reporting trying to take their own life in the 12 months preceding the survey
More Facts About Bullying
The overall outlook of the long term effects of bullying upon society is grim:
60% of middle school students say that they have been bullied, while 16% of staff believes that students are bullied.
160,000 students stay home from school every day due to bullying. (NEA)
30% of students who reported they had been bullied said they had at times brought weapons to school.
A bully is 6 times more likely to be incarcerated by the age of 24.
A bully is 5 times more likely to have a serious criminal record when he grows up.
2/3 of students who are targets become bullies.
20% of all children say they have been bullied.
20% of high school students say they have seriously considered suicide within the last 12 months.
25% of students say that teachers intervened in bullying incidents while 71% of teachers say they intervened.
The average child has watched 8,000 televised murders and 100,000 acts of violence before finishing elementary school.
In schools where there are anti-bullying programs, bullying is reduced by 50%.
Bullying was a factor in 2/3 of the 37 school shootings reviewed by the US Secret Service.
According to the National Institute of Occupational Safety Health (NIOSH) (Sauter, et al.,1990), there is a loss of employment amounting to $19 billion and a drop in productivity of $3 billion due to workplace bullying.
Law enforcement costs related to bullying are enormous. Since 1999, the Office on Violence against Women (OVW) has spent $98 million in assistance to address campus sexual violence.
In schools that have an anti-bullying program, bullying is reduced by 50%.
The Impact of Bullying
While bullying can result in reluctance to go to school and truancy, headaches and stomach pains, reduced appetite, shame, anxiety, irritability, aggression and depression are also frequent effects. Bullying is a direct attack on a student’s status, sense of belonging and core identity, and often results in low self-esteem. The effects of bullying often continue many years into adulthood. In the most extreme cases, targets have taken out their anger and despair through school shootings or by committing suicide.
For the school, the costs of bullying are countless hours consumed in tackling a problem that is resistant to change, truancies, reduced student retention, low teacher morale, negative perceptions of the school by the wider community and parent hostility. The school campus becomes a place where many kids are marginalized and where no-one feels safe. As students become alienated from school, academic performance declines. Schools are increasingly sued for failing to provide a safe learning environment and are being held liable for the harassment, violence and suicides caused by bullying.
While the target of the bullying bears the brunt of the harm, everyone is impacted by it. Students who habitually bully miss the opportunity to learn an alternative to aggression. Research tells us that they often develop a habitual tendency to abuse power and are increasingly shunned as they reach the higher grades. Approximately 25 percent of school bullies will be convicted of a criminal offense in their adult years.
Children at Risk of Being Bullied
Generally, children who are bullied have one or more of the following risk factors:
Are perceived as different from their peers, such as being overweight or underweight, wearing glasses or different clothing, being new to a school, or being unable to afford what kids consider “cool”
Are perceived as weak or unable to defend themselves
Are depressed, anxious, or have low self esteem
Are less popular than others and have few friends
Do not get along well with others, seen as annoying or provoking, or antagonize others for attention
However, even if a child has these risk factors, it doesn’t mean that they will be bullied.
Children More Likely to Bully Others
There are two types of kids who are more likely to bully others:
Some are well-connected to their peers, have social power, are overly concerned about their popularity, and like to dominate or be in charge of others.
Others are more isolated from their peers and may be depressed or anxious, have low self esteem, be less involved in school, be easily pressured by peers, or not identify with the emotions or feelings of others.
Children who have these factors are also more likely to bully others;
Are aggressive or easily frustrated
Have less parental involvement or having issues at home
Think badly of others
Have difficulty following rules
View violence in a positive way
Have friends who bully others
Remember, those who bully others do not need to be stronger or bigger than those they bully. The power imbalance can come from a nu of sources—popularity, strength, cognitive ability—and children who bully may have more than one of these characteristics.
According to a new study conducted by personal finance social network WalletHub,
Louisiana ranks 2nd worst when it comes to controlling bullying.
The study shows more than 160,000 children are missing school every day in the U.S. out of fear of being bullied. WalletHub analyzed 42 states and the District of Columbia across nine key metrics, ranging from bullying incident rates online and on school property, to the cost of truancy for schools.
Here were Louisiana’s stats:
The Bullying Problem in Louisiana (1=Lowest, 21=Avg.):
33rd – % of High School Students Bullied on School Property
26th – % of High School Students Bullied Online
33rd – % of High School Students Involved in Physical Fight at School
40th – % of High School Students Who Missed School Out of Fear of Being Bullied
39th – % of High School Students Who Attempted Suicide
26th – Cost of Truancy for Schools as a Result of Bullying
The top five best states for controlling bullying were Massachusetts, Rhode Island, Oklahoma, Delaware and the District of Columbia. Louisiana ranked just ahead of Arkansas on the list.